Dating – it’s not a game!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

I don’t know about you but I am sick and tired of people playing games. I understand that navigating the dating world can be difficult but it’s not Call Of Duty for goodness sake.  My guy friends are constantly talking about who has the best ‘game’ – for those of you who don’t know, ‘game’ refers to the type of dating technique that someone uses to secure a member of the opposite sex.

You may think you’re playing it cool by waiting three days to call, forgetting that in three days you could easily be replaced. You may want to appear ‘mysterious’ in the hope of grabbing that particular person’s interest, but in reality you’re just making it more difficult for the person to get to know you – dating you shouldn’t require a degree in forensics. Conversely, if you put yourself out there too much and play the ‘easy’ type, it could deter people from liking you; you could come across as slutty and nobody wants used goods.

The thing people forget about games is that there is always a loser. If you insist on playing games when it comes to dating, and not being open and honest about your intentions, you will most likely end up on the losing end. If you want someone, go after them, yes there is the possibility of rejection, but better that than spending an eternity going round in circles.

I know from a woman’s perspective we appreciate honesty and hate being played, so just tell it to us straight; yes what you have to say may hurt our feelings, but we’re strong and can get over it. The same goes to you women, I know some of you are the biggest game players. You have to remember that guys don’t like complications so just simply tell him what it is you’re looking for, whether you’re in need of a fuck buddy or looking for a relationship, be honest and I’m sure it’ll save you a hell of a lot of time.

And for those of you being played, the key thing to remember is that ultimately, if that person wants you, they will make it happen. So if it’s been a while and they haven’t made their intentions clear, it most likely won’t happen. The best thing to do is to move on – best case scenario is that it will kick them into action or it’ll confirm your suspicions that they were never really that into you.